Have you ever felt lonely in a relationship? Although you are with your partner, you still have a feeling of yearning for the company. Or, you still feel lonely, even though you are in a relationship with someone. Everything seems to have changed, and you are not sure why. You are feeling lonely, even when you are together. Whether you’ve been with your partner for a short time or for a long time, there are a few reasons why you might feel that way. You also may not be the only person in a relationship feeling lonely. In this blog post, we’ll go over some Possible Reasons Why Feeling lonely in your relationship.
You Could Be Going Through A Difficult Time
If you feel alone in your relationship, keep in mind that either you or your partner might be going through a difficult time and not expressing it. One of you might be going through a difficult time and is not opening up about it. Now is not the time to try to handle it all on your own. Talk to each other, figure out what is causing the problem, and work together to make it better. Remember that couples counseling will help both of you work on this and make good progress. You shouldn’t be keeping your feelings to yourself if they are hindering your relationship and making you feel lonely.
Make sure you let your partner know that you have noticed a change in their personality or how they carry themselves. The root cause could be many things such as parenting demands, problems at work, a death, unresolved resentment over a particular situation. It is very important to figure out the cause so you can both come up with a solution. You both need to take the time needed to work on your relationship. In a relationship, you are a team. If one is going through a difficult time, you both are in it together. You need to work together to get through it.
Not Having Time Alone Together
You could be feeling alone in a relationship because you are alone very frequently. You might not have alone time together because of conflicting schedules. This can make one or both of you feel alone. Your relationship must make time for each other. Go on a date, watch a movie together, practice closeness with your partner. Talk to each other. Just whatever you can do to make time for your partner, do it even if you have to reschedule something or cancel something altogether.
We all know that life gets busy, but when you feel alone in what was once a very committed and close relationship, you need to take a few steps back, find the root cause of the problem, and fix it. If you don’t have alone time, then there is most likely no intimacy in the relationship. Physical touch is very important, and you need to practice it if you want the relationship to last and be strong. Start with scheduling out a few nights each month to spend time together and be alone. If you need to hire a babysitter or ask a family member to watch your kids for the night, make sure you do it. Having a happy relationship where you feel connected with your partner is well worth it.
Partners with a dismissive-avoidant attachment tend to put distance between them and their loved one. They may isolate or take on the role of the “manager” or “parent.”
Dismissive-avoidant partners may attempt to convince themselves that they’re independent and no longer need a connection from their spouse. However, this only leads to an element of detachment and defensiveness. They may be harsh and/or act like they just don’t care (but newsflash—they do).
Needs and Unmet Needs
Humans have needs—physical needs, emotional needs, spiritual needs, and sexual needs, just to name a few. When we are in a relationship, we hope to have some of these needs—if not all, a good chunk—met by the person we love the most. When this doesn’t happen, we feel rejected, unloved, unprioritized.
Unfortunately, what happens then is we seek to meet these needs elsewhere. It’s human nature, and it’s universal. Perhaps it’s through a third party. Perhaps it’s through a distraction such as work, friends, hobbies. Perhaps it’s by cutting all expectations that our spouse is willing and/or able to meet our needs.
We feel lonely, and our human brain will seek to fill that void any way it can. It took me a while to realize that expressing what my needs were wasn’t selfish. It was what people did when they felt safe.